01 June 2009

bean bags

My nephew Ace turned 3 on Friday. I love that his name is Ace... He lives in New Orleans. He is the only child of my only sibling. My giant, little brother and I have an interesting relationship. We get along just fine, but we never, ever talk. He called me on my birthday this year, which is the first time he has called me in a few years. I never call him either. We get updates through our parents. He and his family came to visit right after Ace was born. We got along great. I really like his girlfriend. It was great to see him and to see who he has become, but still we never talk.

Now that I have a kid of my own, I am finding it more pressing to have a relationship, to keep in touch, for our kids to know each other and us. But how do you restart a relationship that should be close to begin with? How do you begin to get to know someone you saw everyday for 16 years, who you shared a room with, played make believe with, fought with over stupid things?

I started by making a gift for his 3 year old son. One that would give them a new game to play together, that would maybe start a conversation about aunt Amy who lives near grandpa and nana in Montana, with uncle J and baby Avery. I was hoping it would also be the start of an apology for never calling, for not trying harder.

I struggled to find a good gift for a 3 year old boy, especially one I don't know much about. I do know that he likes being outside, playing with sticks and cars and he likes his dad and mom. I decided to make a little set of bean bags and included a page of fun games and activities to play. I also put in a wooden giraffe that used to sit on Leo's dresser. I found it in a box of toys that my parents brought over a few months ago and thought he should have it.


So this is my start.

ETA: Here is the list of activities.

4 comments:

Mary said...

I'd love to see the list you made of games and activities to play.

autumndaesy said...

I totally understand. I don't see/speak to my siblings nearly as much as I should either. But my brother once told me the best thing he liked about his sisters, is that we don't have to "force" a relationship. We can go months without seeing each other, and when we finally do we slide right back in as if not a moment had passed. Sometimes even picking up a dropped conversation from last Christmas! It'll still be there...whenever you want it.

June said...

What a sweet beginning...something old and something new. And, thanks, for stopping by and telling us about your chicks. We are so happy to meet other peeper people! I'll be following along... Love your blog.

Star said...

It's amazing how busy life can be. Trying to find time to take a nice peaceful shower let alone chatting on the phone. I'm sure he'll love the bean bags and games, and the giraffe is awesome.